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Posted: Wed Nov 15, 2006 7:13 am

Reggie, I joined last year, and have now been a member for over a year. In that time, I have learned so much, got to know so many writers, and scientists like Richard Dawkins, Sam Harris, Richard Carrier etc... and bought their books. I would never have found them, or even heard of them were it not for your web site.

Your radio shows were always very entertaining, one I remember which amused me a lot was with "The Son of Man".... that idiot!!

I am also sorry to hear that you are getting divorced. I also think that you are spending too much time on the computer, and need to take "time out" with your wife and kids. You need to "find each other again and remind each other why you got together in the first place, you have both lost that"....

Please Reggie, take some rest, sleep, and forget the people who don't like what you are doing, they are not worth a crumb. If they don't like it let them leave.

I am hanging in there in spite of the fact that I am not happy with the new look. I find it hard on my eyes, but then that's me.

I'm staying Reggie, as many others are. You are such a "cool guy" don't let this work destroy your marriage. It's not worth it. Your family comes first.

When I rang through to your show a few months ago, you said, "wow, a call from Australia, marry me?" something to that effect...it was so sweet, it made me laugh afterwards when I played it back. I am old enough to be your mother, (damn! hehe) but still, if ever you want to get right away from it all, come to Australia, you are welcome in my home. Oh, and don't worry, I have a husband so you'll be quite safe.. luv ja.

Sunamiren

Posted: Wed Nov 15, 2006 7:29 am

No one said the work is destroting the marriage. Honestly, I wish people would stop trying to give advice about something of which they know nothing about. You guys will never know why. Just that it is. My work hours aren't issue.

Thanks for your concern all, but please, no more advice and speculations.

Posted: Wed Nov 15, 2006 7:32 am

You are right Reggie, sorry.

Newbie First Class Joined: Nov 14, 2005 Posts: 25

Hi Reggie,
I'm sorry to hear about your troubles. As you say, I don't know the exact cause and perhaps you should not broadcast everything over the Internet. You are allowed some privacy.

All I can do is wish you all the best, and hope everything works out. I know you will do all in your power to drive your life forward. And that acts as an inspiration for many.

The Learned Joined: Nov 19, 2002 Posts: 157 Location: USA

Reggie:

I realize that I do not post often, but I remain an enthusiast supporter of you and your endeavors. I cannot find the words to adequately praise your courageous efforts. It's clear that you have helped many people. In a world that's overpopulated with superstitions of all stripes, it's comforting to realize that one is not alone in "challenging what you believe".

Insofar as your personal life this quote from Czech author, Milan Kundera comes to mind:

Quote:

For me, indiscretion is a capital *sin. Anyone who reveals someone else's intimate life deserves to be whipped. We live in an age when private life is being destroyed. The police destroy it in Communist countries, journalists threaten it in democratic countries, and little by little the people themselves lose their taste for private life and their sense of it.
Life when one can't hide from the eyes of others - that is hell. Those who have lived in totalitarian countries know it, but that system only brings out, like a magnifying glass, the tendencies of all modern society. The devastation of nature; the decline of thinking and of art; bureaucratization, depersonalization; lack of respect before personal life. Without secrecy, nothing is possible - not love, not friendship.

*(Even though he uses the word "sin", Kundera is an unbeliever)

Posted: Wed Nov 15, 2006 9:48 am

Hey all.. sorry for my outburst. I'm stuck in a horrible position right now. I want someone to talk to, but I have no one. My wife is/was my best friend. She can't make me feel better. Sad

It will take me a while to readjust, please bear with me. I'm single now, so maybe we can "bare" all together? hee-hee Lame attempt a joke while in pain. Crying or Very sad

Posted: Wed Nov 15, 2006 10:17 am

You can always PM me. I'm here Reg. You have a lot of people who like you and love you.. hang in there pal! :hugs:

Posted: Wed Nov 15, 2006 10:27 am

Like everything else, relationship evolve over time, often due to changing circumstances in the lives of two peoples involved. Sometimes these changes are for the better, while sometimes they are for the worse. When problems begin to constantly plague a relationship and things seem hopeless, it may make sense for the relationship to end.

There is no right way to break up. Whether you are the dumper or it was a mutual decision, breaking up is pretty much universally acknowledge to suck for all involved (though obviously being broken up with may smart a tad bit more). Getting over these bad feelings can take a long time or barely a moment, depending on your individual situation. If it was a long and intense relationship, and sometimes even if it wasn't, many people react to a breakup by experiencing the five stages of grief-ranging from denial to anger to bargaining to depression to acceptance. By no strange coincidence, these stages were originally identified as the emotional process we go through to deal with death: after all, the end of a relationship is, in it's own way, a kind of death.

Beyond the grieving process, there are specific post-breakup situations which most people have to deal with, particularly involving your newly minted ex. Deciding if you want to and whether it's possible to deal with your ex is a constructive way can be difficult. Some couples end up getting back together and some don't. If an opportunity arises to give your relationship another chance, figuring out if it's worth it to you and how to go about it is often confusing and frustrating, with easy answer in short supply. Breakups are unique to the people involved and there is no one particular way to make them go smoothly.

But hold fast to your hope. Though it is hard to believe while you're working through all the complications that may come with ending a relationship, there is a bright side. Breakups can also mean positive change. Each relationship you're in gives you valuable experience and help you to understand more about what you want and don't want from someone else, from yourself and in a relationship.

Intern Joined: Sep 09, 2005 Posts: 270

Pikachu wrote:

*Paranoied*

I think IG can ''recover'' her wife if he spend more time with her rather then his computer. I understand why alot of geeks get a divorce and most of the case is due to the ''internet addiction''. My perfect solution is to buy a dog so that you can go outside more often. Yeah and you must feed the dog of course. I love St-Bernards... anyways.

Yeah. i think IG needs to spend more of his time outside the internet. I know it's hard but i think it's the only cure for him against the divorce. This also applies to me as well... for the reason that i will never get a boyfriend or a girlfriend... if only i had a laptop or some sort of a ''virtual goggle''.

Yeah life is shot being an internet freak. Make it STOP ! It's ADDICTIVE ! STOP THE DRUG... ARGGGHHH... I CAN'T STAND IT ANYMORE !

*Shaking mice*

You just need to get an internet-addicted boyfriend. Put the monitor by the bed and do it doggy style, that way you both can see the screen! Twisted Evil

Intern Joined: Sep 09, 2005 Posts: 270

Reggie, for my part I want you to know that your show and your stickam room have really done me a lot of good. I've really enjoyed the debates we've had in there and listening to your show. I've tried to offer my financial support to what you do, even if you did shut down today I wouldn't want my newly-renewed platinum subscription back. You've made a difference in my life.

Also, I have an observation: There are always a few people in every crowd that like to be difficult. They're always the first ones to be critical, but won't generally lift a finger to do anything to change it. I deal with people like this all the time at work. I see how crazy it makes you, but frankly I can't imagine how you've lived in the public eye for 8 years and this shit still gets under your skin.

Remeber, it's Adapt and Win, not Stay the Course. And certainly not Cut and Run. ](*,)

Posted: Wed Nov 15, 2006 11:39 am

Obermeister wrote:

You just need to get an internet-addicted boyfriend. Put the monitor by the bed and do it doggy style, that way you both can see the screen! Twisted Evil

Hell yeah ! Very Happy

Newbie First Class Joined: Sep 05, 2006 Posts: 25

[quote="Obermeister"]

Pikachu wrote:

*Paranoied*

I think IG can ''recover'' her wife if he spend more time with her rather then his computer. I understand why alot of geeks get a divorce and most of the case is due to the ''internet addiction''. My perfect solution is to buy a dog so that you can go outside more often. Yeah and you must feed the dog of course. I love St-Bernards... anyways.

Yeah. i think IG needs to spend more of his time outside the internet. I know it's hard but i think it's the only cure for him against the divorce. This also applies to me as well... for the reason that i will never get a boyfriend or a girlfriend... if only i had a laptop or some sort of a ''virtual goggle''.

Not to be rude and I can't speak for Reggie but I think he said he preferred if people didn't comment and give advice on something they don't know anything about Wink

Posted: Wed Nov 15, 2006 12:29 pm

laffer wrote:

Not to be rude and I can't speak for Reggie but I think he said he preferred if people didn't comment and give advice on something they don't know anything about Wink

I agree... i think Reggie can handle all this all alone.

This can be hard to remember at a time when there seems to be exceeding amounts of pressure to couple up, whether it's comming from the media, your friends or even your family. It's useful to consider the fact that nobody needs to have a boyfriend or a girlfriend.

Girls who have not started dating yet sometimes wonder if there's something wrong with them. There is no right time or age to get involved with somebody else. Different people are ready for relationships at different times. Even if you are convinced you are ready, life has a way of following its own timetable. Rather than spending time focusing on what you don't have, it's a good idea to think about and take advantage of the benefits and opportunities that being single provide.

Going it alone allows you to really focus on yourself, to figure out what you want and in which direction you hope to go. It also allows you the freedom, both physically and emotionally, to follow whatever paths you do find for yourself-all without worrying about what another person may think. There is something to the old saying that you can't really be comfortable with someone else until you learn to be comfortable with yourself.

If you can feel comfortable being alone with yourself, you are likely to experience one of the most valuable results of singlehood: the confidence that your happiness does not depend on anyone other than you.

Posted: Wed Nov 15, 2006 1:54 pm

Reggie,
Like all the others who've said it, I want you to know your site really changed my life too when I discovered it many years ago. I may not use the forums much, but I've listened to hundreds of hours of your shows on my archaic first generation MP3 player since before the word "podcast" even existed! I've become more confident and open as an atheist, and I've read so many freethinking authors that I'd never have even know about without your show. I've never regretted becoming a gold member, and I for one won't be going anywhere!
Take all the time you need to get back on your feet. It probably won't be easy, but really LIVING this life is rarely easy. That's why so many prefer the religious fantasy world!

Posted: Wed Nov 15, 2006 3:33 pm

I can see that many peoples have changed due to the shows. As for me, i haven't changed because i always been an atheist. I have no clue what's the ''feeling'' to be a theist. Maybe i should Stare into the sun until i get blind.


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